In Dear Momma Motherhood and a Hood’s Mother there was a distinction that during the 1980s “crack cocaine was a force that shaped black society” and even in 2008 there still issue on whether crack cocaine is still a driving force within the black community. Now I am not racist and I do not believe that one drug is specially made for black or whites. However, the media does have a tendency to discriminate which race does what drug. From the media I have heard that crack cocaine is a black drug because it is cheaper and easier to make. It is also believed that crack is dirtier because it is made in the dealer’s kitchen and there is no control on whether there are any dangerous particles in the drug. Another way that crack would shape black society is that so many children are removed from their mothers because of drug abuse. There is even a special name that society has given to baby who are born addicted to crack and that is “crack babies”. Even though cocaine has the same effect on the fetus as crack we still refer to the babies as crack babies and not coke babies. There is one thing that I never understood was that people think that there is a big distinction between crack and cocaine when there is not. Both crack and coke are made the same way and yet coke seems to be more acceptable. During the nineteen hundreds they actually used to put cocaine in Coke a Cola and it was commonly prescribed by doctors. With a history of being prescribed by doctors it is believed that cocaine is cleaner and it also tends to be more expensive than crack. Back in Cleveland I have a couple of friends who used cocaine for only superficial reasons. One of my friends started using cocaine so that she could stay awake for a long period of time. The other reason she kept using cocaine was because it would cause her to lose an extreme amount of weight in a short amount of time. While another friend, who works at National City, uses cocaine because his fellow colleges use it as well and he would rather use cocaine because he can afford it and he feels more sophisticated. The other reason is that cocaine stays in your system for a very short amount of time so he would be able to pass a drug test every time.

Even though all types of addiction should be taken seriously, in this country when individuals claim that they have a sex addiction they are laughed at. “Sexual addiction is a hidden addiction” and it is because it is harder to identify. When an individual is an alcoholic or a drug addict you can see it, but with a sexual addiction it will be behind closed doors where people cannot see. I’m not going to lie when I first heard that men who admit that they are sex addicts I thought that it was a joke. From an early age I always know that men were addicted to sex because they think about sex over 50 times a day. Although when if women say that they are sex addicts it is unusual because women are not supposed to be sexual creators. Women are believed not to want sex as often as men. Which is not true at all. All the produces that are out are guided for both sexes, so that they both can experience pleasure. Just like it was discussed in class just like any other addiction process has to get progressively worse from an added stimulus. There is still a lot that we do not know about sex addiction but once society accepts that men and women can be addicted to sex they can get the proper help.

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No mother or father ever wants to see their child addicted to any type of substance. I know that if I had a problem abusing alcohol or drugs my mother would do anything in her power to help me. She would send me to rehab and then afterwards she would have me see a therapist so that I could understand myself why I resorted to drugs or alcohol. I also believe that parents who are involved in their child’s life they can identify whether their child was in trouble. My mother could be able to notice if there was any change in my attitude and or my personality. I remember one time my mother called me and I was wasted and she asked me whether I was drunk. I told her “no” I was not drunk, but she knew that I was lying and came and got me. My mom could tell from my voice when I am drunk and she can also tell from my body language whether I had a hung over. From my personal experiences my do not believe that believe that Koren’s parents could tell when she was drunk. In the book she talks about how her parents went to parties and there would have to be someone at the party who was drunk. Both of her parents should have been able to tell if she was drunk or hung over.

On the other side of the coin I would never want to think of either of my parents having a drug or alcohol problem. In that situation, the roles have changed were the children are the parents and the parents are the children. It is up to the children to take care of the parents when they are too intoxicated to take care of themselves. I could never image what it would be like for my mother or father to choose drugs or alcohol over me. I know that my childhood would have been darker because I would have my parents teaching me everything about drugs. But not in a good way. They could teach me how to make whatever drug they were using and make me sell that drug on the streets so that we would have money to survive. Even though I was not in class on Monday when we watched the movie about Tupac I still look at the discussion questions on Carmen and internet. I did not know that his mother was addicted to crack and that at the age of seventeen he dropped out of school.

Binge drinking is something that college students deal with on a daily basis. It was impressing that a mother was willing to binge drink a substantial amount of alcohol for “30 Days“. I found it interesting that after the mother started drinking she could perform many of the tasks she needed to do. Her youngest child noticed a change in her personality; she was constantly tried, and was not happy. After seeing his mother drunk all the time he says that he is never going to drink. He got to see his mother stumble home, from one of her drunken nights, slam into the front door and start crying because she could not get her key in the door. Unfortunately, her daughter, Jennifer, did not have the same reaction. I remember her laughing at her mother because she could not “hold her liquor”. After a month the mother did not develop any internal damage but if she was drinking for years she would have serious problems with her liver. It was sad that at the end of the episode there was not enough of an impact for Jennifer to stop binge drinking.

Every woman should get a pap by her OBGYN every year.  When you hit twenty and you have not has sex you should getting a pap once a year. If you are sexually active or you are on any form of birth control it is important to see an OBGYN.  This is to make sure that everything is working properly.   Paps help detect any cancers, yeast infections, and other diseases like STD’s.  The common thought is that a pap is very uncomfortable and they are correct.  It is not the greatest feeling being scrapped but if will test whether there is something wrong a little bit of discomfort is worth it.  If you have not had a pap, go and get one.  Something to keep in mind that when you turn thirty you only have to get a pap every other year.

A couple of months ago I had some unusual bleeding while I was on my period. I started to bleeding BLACK, which had never happened before, and it scared the shit out of me. I made a appointment with my OBGYN and she told me that this was normal. I thought to myself that I can’t be the only person that has this so I made a helpful chart of all the colors that occur down there.

Colors
Red – Good. The only thing is that if you are bleeding irregularly and having many uncomfortable pains during your period talk to a doctor.
Pink – Good. Every month your uterus dissolves and a little blood will come out (spotting).
Brown – Good. Just means that the blood is drying up.
Black – Good. When you are on birth control, your blood thinks that it is pregnant. Therefore, your uterus will dissolves and follow out of your blood (spotting). When it comes time to have your period normally, your blood will be black because your blood will be getting rid of the left over blood.
Yellow Discharge – Good. Normal.
Green Discharge – SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY FROM A DOCTOR.
White Discharge – Bad. If your discharge is, white, thick, and has a funny odor than it is a sign of a yeast infections. If you have a yeast infection do to the doctor. If you cannot go to the doctor, eat some yogurt and take a bath.

I have discovered one of the greatest sex toys ever it is called The Egg. Just like the name states the vibrator looks like an egg. The vibrator part is connected to a long cord that connected to the battery remote control. The remote control has adjustable settings. The Egg is designed for more clitoral stimulus not for penetration. They do make The Egg without the cord but I don’t recommend them. Without the cord there are more chances for The Egg to get stuck in a place where you don’t want. One of the best tricks that I found with The Egg is put on regular panties not a tong because it doesn’t have the same effect. Get comfortable on a piece of furniture that you can prop your feet firmly and not move. I have noticed that a couch or chair works the best. Place The Egg on your clit, keep your panties on, with the point touching the clit. Turn on the remote control when you are comfortable and sit back and enjoy the ride. This technique is nice for people that have issues touching themselves. The panties will hold The Egg in place so you don’t have to touch anything.

Here’s a guide to a buying a vibrator

Do’s

• Beginners should have a classic vibrator, one that is smaller than the average penis size (about 5in. long and 1.5 in diameter). Think of it this way: a little smaller than your boyfriends dick (if you have a one)
• Make it personal, pick your favorite color. This way it won’t see, as uncomfortable.
• Buy a magic bullet!!! Clitoral simulation is key; sometimes you’re not in the mood for penetration.
• Buy a vibrator to accommodate you. If you get to used to a smaller size, buy something a little bigger.
• Buy cleaner that’s sold at the store.
• If you’re confused, ask a friend, sorority sister, or someone who works in the store.
• Buy a waterproof vibrator. Sometimes it’s good to have fun in the shower or bathtub (we all need our personal time).
• After some experience, my recommendation for an “everyday” vibrator is the Rabbit (or Beaver, Dolphin, Lion, Panda; the animals are different but they all work the same way). It provides excellent penetration and clitoral stimulation and is great for a good, quick orgasm.
• Find a good place to keep them, especially if you don’t live alone (read my earlier post about that mess)

Don’ts

• Buy strap-on vibrator. They move, are uncomfortable, and if you need one to use for sex, there’s something wrong.
• Use scented soaps, purell, or rubbing alcohol to clean your vibrator. Theses will likely lead to yeast infections.
• Buy anything you have to attach to your finger (or any other body parts). These are messy; they typically don’t stay in place, and usually don’t work.
• Let your boyfriend be intimidated by them. Adding them to your sex life can be fun.

If you ever want to read something that will make you laugh, read this article on the BBC website about Indian men and condoms. A British reporter wrote an article about how average size condoms are too big for the men of India. That’s right the average size condoms are too big. I wounder whether Trojans are going to make extra small condoms. After reading this article I will never complain that magnums are too big. I feel so bad for the women of India for their misfortune. No wonder the KamaSutra was made so that the woman could feel something. So sorry for all the Indian women in the world and all the women that have ever had sex with an Indian man. It know makes sense on why there are not that many Indians that are in porn. Personally, I have no opinion on this matter because I have never had sex with an Indian. So if anyone has any incite on this matter let me know. If anyone is offended to bad I didn’t write the article the BBC did.

At the age of 18 I lost my virginity and I have only been with two partners, including my current boyfriend. However, I consider myself to be the most educated person of sex for my age. I’m not a slut but, for some reason I know almost everything about sex. When ever anyone has any questions about positions, places, or even terms, they always come to me. Out of the entire realm of sex, my specialty is toys; I’ve owned and retired so many that I consider myself an expert. Therefore, I became the unofficial toy educator for my sorority.

In this position, I’ve had quite a bit of interesting memories. My favorite being the time when I went to the local porn store with my sorority sisters and had to educate them. We went down the line and pointed out all the vibrators which were good and the ones people should never buy. As I was doing this one of my sisters was looking at anal beads and I had to explain what they were and where they went. If you haven’t figured it out yet and weren’t paying attention they are called “Anal Beads” for a reason. I’m not shy about my experiences and will lell people what works and what doesn’t. I know way too much for my own good.

I had the biggest shock from my father because he knows more than what I thought he did. I had a TV which with a VCR player built in which I thought was broken. The only problem was that there was a porn in the VCR and I couldn’t get it out. I tried for months to get the video out of the VCR with no luck. The moment my dad touched the TV it turned on. He pulled the video out, read the title and was embarrassed for me. I was sitting on the couch and my dad came up to me and said, “I can’t think of you as my little girl anymore”. I could not believe that he found one of my movies. Now this gets even better because that very day he told me that he found one of my vibrators under the passenger seat of my car. I couldn’t believe that: one I left one of my vibrators in my car, and two: that my dad knew what a vibrator was. The sad part was that the vibrator in question doesn’t even look like a traditional vibrator, it’s the naughty gnome. I could not believe that he knew what a vibrator was or that he could even talk to be about it. I was able keep everything hidden for years. Now he knows my secret.

I just found the greatest vibrator in the history of vibrators “THE CONE”. This vibrator sounds absolutely amazing. The cone is hand-free devise. It’s pink and it’s cute. The best thing is that it does not even look like a vibrator. It’s a cone shape and there is no evidence that would even make it look like a traditional vibrator. The cone has 3 Volt, 3000 Rpm Gold Brush Motor, and 16 in-built settings. There is a setting which is specially made called “orgasm”. It measures 135mm (~5.25 in.) high with a diameter of 185mm (~7.25 in) and weighs a whopping 375g (13 ounces). I can’t wait to try it and when I do I’ll let everyone know about it. Check it out HERE (SFW).