In Dear Momma Motherhood and a Hood’s Mother there was a distinction that during the 1980s “crack cocaine was a force that shaped black society” and even in 2008 there still issue on whether crack cocaine is still a driving force within the black community. Now I am not racist and I do not believe that one drug is specially made for black or whites. However, the media does have a tendency to discriminate which race does what drug. From the media I have heard that crack cocaine is a black drug because it is cheaper and easier to make. It is also believed that crack is dirtier because it is made in the dealer’s kitchen and there is no control on whether there are any dangerous particles in the drug. Another way that crack would shape black society is that so many children are removed from their mothers because of drug abuse. There is even a special name that society has given to baby who are born addicted to crack and that is “crack babies”. Even though cocaine has the same effect on the fetus as crack we still refer to the babies as crack babies and not coke babies. There is one thing that I never understood was that people think that there is a big distinction between crack and cocaine when there is not. Both crack and coke are made the same way and yet coke seems to be more acceptable. During the nineteen hundreds they actually used to put cocaine in Coke a Cola and it was commonly prescribed by doctors. With a history of being prescribed by doctors it is believed that cocaine is cleaner and it also tends to be more expensive than crack. Back in Cleveland I have a couple of friends who used cocaine for only superficial reasons. One of my friends started using cocaine so that she could stay awake for a long period of time. The other reason she kept using cocaine was because it would cause her to lose an extreme amount of weight in a short amount of time. While another friend, who works at National City, uses cocaine because his fellow colleges use it as well and he would rather use cocaine because he can afford it and he feels more sophisticated. The other reason is that cocaine stays in your system for a very short amount of time so he would be able to pass a drug test every time.

Even though all types of addiction should be taken seriously, in this country when individuals claim that they have a sex addiction they are laughed at. “Sexual addiction is a hidden addiction” and it is because it is harder to identify. When an individual is an alcoholic or a drug addict you can see it, but with a sexual addiction it will be behind closed doors where people cannot see. I’m not going to lie when I first heard that men who admit that they are sex addicts I thought that it was a joke. From an early age I always know that men were addicted to sex because they think about sex over 50 times a day. Although when if women say that they are sex addicts it is unusual because women are not supposed to be sexual creators. Women are believed not to want sex as often as men. Which is not true at all. All the produces that are out are guided for both sexes, so that they both can experience pleasure. Just like it was discussed in class just like any other addiction process has to get progressively worse from an added stimulus. There is still a lot that we do not know about sex addiction but once society accepts that men and women can be addicted to sex they can get the proper help.

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No mother or father ever wants to see their child addicted to any type of substance. I know that if I had a problem abusing alcohol or drugs my mother would do anything in her power to help me. She would send me to rehab and then afterwards she would have me see a therapist so that I could understand myself why I resorted to drugs or alcohol. I also believe that parents who are involved in their child’s life they can identify whether their child was in trouble. My mother could be able to notice if there was any change in my attitude and or my personality. I remember one time my mother called me and I was wasted and she asked me whether I was drunk. I told her “no” I was not drunk, but she knew that I was lying and came and got me. My mom could tell from my voice when I am drunk and she can also tell from my body language whether I had a hung over. From my personal experiences my do not believe that believe that Koren’s parents could tell when she was drunk. In the book she talks about how her parents went to parties and there would have to be someone at the party who was drunk. Both of her parents should have been able to tell if she was drunk or hung over.

On the other side of the coin I would never want to think of either of my parents having a drug or alcohol problem. In that situation, the roles have changed were the children are the parents and the parents are the children. It is up to the children to take care of the parents when they are too intoxicated to take care of themselves. I could never image what it would be like for my mother or father to choose drugs or alcohol over me. I know that my childhood would have been darker because I would have my parents teaching me everything about drugs. But not in a good way. They could teach me how to make whatever drug they were using and make me sell that drug on the streets so that we would have money to survive. Even though I was not in class on Monday when we watched the movie about Tupac I still look at the discussion questions on Carmen and internet. I did not know that his mother was addicted to crack and that at the age of seventeen he dropped out of school.

Binge drinking is something that college students deal with on a daily basis. It was impressing that a mother was willing to binge drink a substantial amount of alcohol for “30 Days“. I found it interesting that after the mother started drinking she could perform many of the tasks she needed to do. Her youngest child noticed a change in her personality; she was constantly tried, and was not happy. After seeing his mother drunk all the time he says that he is never going to drink. He got to see his mother stumble home, from one of her drunken nights, slam into the front door and start crying because she could not get her key in the door. Unfortunately, her daughter, Jennifer, did not have the same reaction. I remember her laughing at her mother because she could not “hold her liquor”. After a month the mother did not develop any internal damage but if she was drinking for years she would have serious problems with her liver. It was sad that at the end of the episode there was not enough of an impact for Jennifer to stop binge drinking.

First of all I would like to congratulate you for having the courage to tell your story. I know how painful it is to relive embracing memories just so that you can prove a point. Although one of the main problems that I had with your book was that your story is so similar to other stories that I have heard before. Several of my family, friends, and even my sorority sisters have battled with alcoholism and they all claim that “I know I drink, but I’m not an alcoholic”. Guess what you are an Alcoholic. Looking back even you can admit that you had a problem with alcohol when you were in high school. When your pen pal told you that you had a problem with alcohol it should have been a wakeup call for you because she was the neutral third party. You surrounded yourself with people who drink on a regular basis and who would not tell you whether you had a serious problem. It is hard for someone to admit that they have a problem and that they need help. You should not have yelled at your pen pal she was just looking out for you.

I understand that you want to stupid and dangerous activities because you are young, but sometimes you need to grow up. I wish that you would have given more in site on the parents and adults in your community. Just like you I was raised in a rich area and there was nothing better to do but drink alcohol and get high every weekend. Even though there was underage drinking our parents and teachers always talked about the dangers of binge drinking. I have a hard time believing that all the parents in the community were clueless at what their children were doing. My parents, as well as my friend’s parents, knew what we were going all the time and taught us about the dangers of alcohol. You said that you needed to drink seventeen ounces of Southern Comfort so that you could socialize with others. I’m not doing to lie sometimes I need some liquid courage when I feel uncomfortable at a party but I could never drink that much alcohol. One of the problems that I had was the part where you entered college and wanted to pledge a sorority. It was insulting that you were only interested in pledging the “drunk sorority”. I’m a member of a local sorority in Cleveland and we would never have given you a bid. When you are in a sorority you look out for your sisters and make sure that they do not continue down a destructive patch. I do not know whether it is because I’m older and I do not enjoy going to the bars every night getting wasted but there is a point in everyone’s life where they have to grow up. I wish you all the luck in world. I hope that by you writing your story can give hope to anyone who is struggling with some form of addiction.

Twiggy

In my Women Studies class we got to watch a movie called “Spin the Bottle” and it portrait the whole college experience and a little about Greek Life.  I hate watching those types of movies because the message is that women are a lot more differently than men.  If I have to hear from another feminist that I will be blamed for things more because I’m a woman I will scream.  Yes, I know that if I get assaulted in an ally that I will be blamed because I should have known better, I was wearing the wrong thing, and (my favorite) she asked for it.  I CAN”T STAND IT.  It also frustrates the hell out of me when I see documentaries about drinking and who it always relates to Greek Life.  It is because of these documentaries is way people don’t want to be Greek.  As apart of the Greek community I can’t stand it when I hear individuals who know nothing about Greek Life make assumptions about a world they don’t know.  Guess what when I pledged my sorority I did not have to drink my weight in beer and I didn’t  have to sleep with anyone.  While I was pledging and even when I became a sister, if there was an event my sisters would never buy or give me alcohol.  Of course I would drink with my sisters but we were all smart about it.  There was always someone who would cut you off, drive you home, and watch out for you.  The only time that I got drunk with my sisters was on my 21st birthday and we were all other 21.  Even after I turned 21 we always watched out for each other.  Not everyone who attends a house party not everyone is drinking.  It is sad that there are bad apples that  mess everything up for the rest of us.  Does drinking happen in Greek Life, Yes it does, but we are taught to be smart and aware of everything.  Every experience is different, but take everything with a gain of salt.  If you want to be Greek than be Greek and have your own experiences.